你们中的许多人可能从未经历过这种情况,因为在任何给定的时间里,你都很有可能是房间里大多数人的一部分。让我们稍微感同身受一点,想象一下你自己站在别人的立场上,而他不是大多数人的一部分。你走进一个满是人的房间,没有一个人长得像你,说话像你,穿着像你,即使他们的眼神完全没有贬低你的意思,许多人会看着你,因为他们知道你是不同的。这种注意停止了,一切照旧,但即使你尝试了,也没有人会努力把你拉进谈话中。没有人表现出积极的非语言交流,这暗示你认为你不受欢迎,即使事实并非如此。你发现自己一个人在角落里,想知道自己为什么会在那里。当你向同一组人展示你的科学研究时,你受到的问题轰炸明显多于其他人,就好像你受到了不公平的测试。尽管没有人说什么直接的贬损的话,你还是觉得缺乏尊重。你发现自己精神疲惫不堪。你最终会问自己,为什么我要让自己经历这些? You remember back to grade school when you didn’t see many people of color in the sciences, and you originally thought you couldn’t do science because no one looked like you. You continually remind yourself that you can overcome these issues, your passion for fisheries resources will continue to motivate you, and you will overcome. Okay, let’s come back to your own shoes now. This example comes directly from a compilation of situations discussed by several podcast guests. It is real and people deal with this regularly. It doesn’t have to be this way. I am willing to bet you can think of a time where this has happened to a minority individual at a meeting or in your office. However, with some caring and compassionate people called “allies,” things can turn around quickly. The idea of “allyship” is to build trust, consistency, and accountability with marginalized people.
这就是问题所在……成为盟友需要努力,包容需要努力,让别人感到受欢迎也需要努力。可悲的是,许多人没有意识到他们在做什么,通过非语言沟通他们被如何看待,以及别人的真实感受。是的,我认为我是一个直男白人,他使用了“感觉”这个词。人是感情丰富的生物,无论他们多么想掩饰或掩饰自己的感情,都是有感情的。许多人可能会被大男子主义所困扰,不以积极的方式表达自己的感受或忽视他人的感受。对人们的同情似乎在混乱中消失了。是时候优先考虑富有同情心和同理心了。成为一个盟友,大声地为包容而努力。你可能会问,大声包容意味着什么?如果你听到一些听起来很奇怪或贬低个人或群体的事情,大声说出来,说这是不对的。 As one podcast guest said, “an ally can give a sign or cue of disapproval and it usually stops people in their tracks” (Episode 2). In the introductory sentence I used an important word when it comes to being inclusive. A person must be perceived as “genuine” or there is risk of unintentionally coming off as fake or ingenuine. That can often do more damage than good. Another source of harm that is critical to being an ally is not questioning the experiences of marginalized community members, but accepting that their experiences are real and actively working toward changing that experience for the better. But also realize, as one guest stated, “allies are going to screw up and no one is perfect so just learn from it and move on” (Episode 2). That is where the trust comes into play as an ally.